Ive been away from Preston and Gabby for close to 4 years now and I have discovered that there are many different types of feelings when you miss your own children. There is also different versions of loneliness you go thru as well. I usually spend most of my time with Gabby because her schedule is much more flexible - Preston swim schedule has him swimming almost 365 days a year so time with him is scarce.

Hernando PlanellsAugust 12, 2017#alwaysdad, fatherhood, family, tribe, divorced dad, single dad, parenting, sons, dad and sonsComment

Stop competing with the ex... #alwaysdad

There was a time I was trying to compete against the ex-wife. Being a coach you train yourself and your players that there are winners and there are losers... I brought that same mentality to my divorce. It took me a while to take a deep breath, a step back and be better.

Hernando PlanellsJuly 1, 2017divorced dad, fatherhood, single dad, #alwaysdad, parenting, winning, losing, ex wife, happy, passion, children, legacyComment

Second guessing and fatherhood - the perfect combination (#alwaysdad)

Being a father in the coaching world is a very difficult combination… Having your kids over 3000 miles away feels almost impossible...

I am blessed to speak with coaches who are also dads and many of them say the same thing - outsiders look at our lives and think that it's so amazing that we get to travel an impact young people… But for many of us it is very difficult to impact the ones around you and feel as if you have little to no impact with your very own kids.